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Here are the top ten blog posts of 2009.  They were determined by number of hits and ties were broken by your personal votes. Thanks to my readers this site has had over 20,000 hits.

TOP 10 POSTS OF 2009

10.  Are You On Fire For God

 9.   #1 Question To Ask If Your Church Is Declining

8.  The #1 Job Of A Spiritual Leader

7.  The Temptation To Be Spectacular

6.  I Quench The Holy Spirit

5.  Why I Resigned

4.  Developing A Youth Ministry That Will Impact Culture

3.  The Danger Of Leadership Privileges

2.  Please Shut Up And Resign

1.  Top 10 Lessons We Should Learn From A Fallen Pastor

There were several that missed being in the Top Ten by less than 10 points….

• Ten Things The Church Does That Scares The Crap Out Of Me
• Ministry Ain’t For Sissies
• Grand Central
• Conversations With My 13 Year Old Son
• Why Do People Resist Change
• God Wants Your Church To Grow
• God Has Not Forgotten You
• The Danger Of Spiritual Weeds

May you have a blessed Christmas and a wonderful New Year! 

 

On January 2nd I will post the top ten posts of 2009. This is determined by the number of hits and also your vote.  If you want to vote on your favorite posts leave a comment here or email me at dseeley@winfluence.org.

For several days I have been thinking about this post. I realize that some will not like it. Some may think I lack understanding or compassion. That’s okay. The purpose of my writing has never been to gain public approval but to share my experience, heart and truth as I see it.

 

Every year at this time I listen to so many share about the stress they are under. Instead of “tis the season to be jolly” I hear folks grumble and complain about many things. When I ask for clarification of the stress this is what I hear most often…

 

·         “I have so much shopping to do”  Have you considered shopping online? Most stores offer good sales and free shipping. You can do all of  your shopping in one evening.  Have you considered giving less gifts?  What about giving to a needy charity in the recipient’s name? What about planning ahead?  Consider shopping months in advance and then putting it in a closet. I had 90% of my shopping done by November 27^th. 

 

·         “I have so many parties to attend.”  I love parties. But if parties are stressing you out don’t go. Is anyone holding a gun to your head threatening to shoot if your absent? Will the party cancel if you’re not there?  Could you go for just one  hour? 

 

·         “More school activities.”  Okay. You can’t cancel these but I will suggest that you enjoy them. Christmas with your children is a short amount of time in your life. While you complain about it now one day it will probably be looked on as one of the greatest highlights in your life. Just sayin.

 

·         “More church activities.”  You don’t have to sign up for everything or attend everything. Remember that these are also great opportunities for building memories with your family.

 

·         “The cooking.”  I enjoy all the holiday cooking but realize that some of you don’t.  I saw “The Blind Side” recently and loved the part where the father told the kids to thank their mom for purchasing the Thanksgiving dinner!  Laughed at loud at that one.  Buy it or make it simple. I know one family that has taco salad every Christmas Eve. Todd’s grandmother used to make at least 20 different types of Christmas cookies every single year until the day she died at 88. Her secret? Baking and freezing. 

 

·         “The Christmas cards.”  P-L-E-A-S-E.  Who says you have to mail out cards?  Consider doing it online. Do it every other year or don’t do it at all. Consider a January Happy New Year card.

• “I’m broke and don’t have any money to spend.”  Everyone knows we are in a recession.  Do you have to give gifts?  If you have young children that is a different story but we have been in that situation as people in full time ministry living on a tight budget.  I remember one year that Todd took a part time job at Costco to earn money for gifts for the boys. It was tough. It was humbling for a college graduate to push carts in the cold and rain with teenagers but he was grateful for the job and saw it is God’s provision.  It amazes me to hear unemployed folks say they would never do a particular job because they think it is beneaththem. I once heard a girl say she would NEVER  hostess or waitress. People like that have much to learn about life. I have the highest respect for a friend, Darica Smith, who rented a home with me in San Diego. She is very intelligent, graduate of UCSD and working on her masters degree at the time she got engaged. She worked full time at the VA and made the decision to get a 2nd job at McDonalds to pay off some debt and save some money for her wedding expenses. I have never forgotten that and have told the story to my kids.  I know folks today that need income that would never even consider that.

 

I don’t want to close without sharing some holiday stress that does grieve and touch my heart deeply…

 

·         A family that lost their home with no place to go due to unemployment.

 

·         A missionary family that is struggling due to lack of financial support.

 

·         The McRaefamily in Phoenix who is in the hospital with their 5 year old, Kate, undergoing chemo due to brain cancer.

 

·         The family who is grieving the loss of a loved one this Christmas.  

 

·         The mother who is fighting cancer so that she can be around for her children.

 

·         The parent’s with the rebellious child who is wondering if they will be spending Christmas together.

 

·         The man who just found out his wife is having an adulterous affair. 

 

·         The children who were told their parents are getting a divorce.

 

·         The woman struggling with depression 

• The family with a son incarcerated.
• The person struggling with addiction.

 

Have you listened to folks talk about holiday stress this year?  What would you add to this list?  Do you feel stress today?  Would love your thoughts.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Laughed hysterically as someone recently shared with me about a hike she took with her husband. Not being the outdoor type she had no desire to spend her day this way.  But it was his birthday request so how could she say no? She expected a walk through the woods on a clear and even path. They could chat along the way, hold hands and enjoy the beautiful scenery.  Not exactly what happened.  It was very rough at times. Treacherous terrain. No clear and even path. It was exhausting. She even got bruised and cut up along the way. At times she had to hold on to branches to keep from falling downhill.  The only words out of her mouth were Oh God, please help me.

 

Do you ever feel like your life is like this? I do. You long for an easy path yet that is not what you are on. It’s difficult and tiring. You have been bruised and cut up. Sometimes you fall.  You feel exhausted. You long for an easier path that others appear to be on.  You wonder how long it will take to get to the other side.

 

Jesus is aware of the path. In fact he is right there with you.  He walks beside you. He understands. He will lead you. He will carry you through.

 

Are you tired?  Worn out? Burned out on religion?  Come to me.  Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me ~ watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.     – Matthew 11:28-30 The Msg